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Bring on more gender neutral terms

3/1/2016

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(Originally posted by myself here).

I got "sir'ed" today at the shop today :/

I had a headband and boobs; still got ”sir’ed”!

Blargh :( Surely there must be a "gender agnostic" term of respect to prevent misgendering people with sir or ma'am.
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Privilege - Don't know what you got 'til it is gone

11/8/2015

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I had just finished a workshop preparing for the Trans* World Cafe. I walked outside the building and was about to start walking to my car when I stopped in a panic.

It was 5pm in the city and my car was parked in a small alleyway. I was scared. Would anything happen when I got to my car? Would I be followed? Would I be talked to by a stranger and say something they "disapproved" of and then be attacked by them?

These thoughts and feelings would never have occurred before my public expression of femininity. I, like the majority of feminine people, have become a potential target for gender-based violence.

I never thought about male privilege before. Now, I am reminded day by day how much feminine people have to face and think about just to keep themselves safe.

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Justification

10/28/2015

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(Originally posted by myself here).

As trans people, we often feel like we need to come up with reasons to justify our gender expression - whether it be what we are called (names, pronouns), how we look (clothing, hormones, surgery), or how we act.

We are not “allowed” to just be who we are; we have to give some kind of long detailed reasoning with an extensive pro/con list to explain why we want to express a certain way. We have no agency into our own lives.

Currently, the seemingly only “good enough” reason for people (including doctors) to accept us expressing a certain way, is for us to have intense gender dysphoria. This covers a broad range of feelings including depression, anxiety, and self-loathing, all stemming from the fact that our actual gender is different to that assigned to us at birth and that we are being forced to express in a given way. It is only after feeling like this for multiple years that we are “allowed” to change our outward appearance to better align with our identity. Even then, this reason is not enough for some and they will refuse to acknowledge what we need.

Yes, some of us do not experience gender dysphoria to that intensity, or even at all. Instead, we experience something referred to as gender euphoria when we present in the way that best suits us. Although we might not explicitly hate our birth name or body, we are undeniably happier when presenting in a way different from that expected of our assigned gender.

This issue is present for both binary trans people (identifying as male if assigned as female, and vice versa) and non-binary trans people (those who identify outside of the male-female binary). For non-binary people, this can be extremely frustrating, as the people we face might be accepting of trans people, they however will only accept two stereotypical gender expressions: masculine male and feminine female. Someone could identity as agender (i.e. no gender) but still have a very masculine or feminine expression. The cry against them - “You are outside the binary, why do you want something so binary?” Or they could be genderfluid (i.e. identifying as different genders at different times) and want an expression that matches the gender at that given time. “Why can’t you just make up your mind?” the ill-informed wail.

The crux of all this is the fact that cis people can change their names, clothes and interests with next to no resistance from peers and general society. They don’t need to have detailed psychological examinations to have their gender marker “validated”. They don’t need to justify to their family that what they are doing is right and that they are not “sick in the head”.

Why them? And not us?

Why?
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How does one define gender? Can we?

10/28/2015

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(Originally posted by myself here).

What defines our gender?
It is not:

  • career (nurse, doctor, engineer, secretary, teacher, gardener, sheet metal worker)
  • mannerisms (‘camp’, 'butch’)
  • sexual orientation
  • interests (fashion design, IT, sewing, cooking, cars)
What criteria would we then use to determine our gender?
If we think there are only two genders, our gender is the same as our 'sex’, hence it is easily 'explainable’ why there is no dependence on interests, career or appearance in defining our gender (e.g. a male fashion designer still identifying as male). (This is because of the assumption that sex is defined by anatomy or chromosomes and that there are only 'categories’ - male and female).
If we are accepting of the gender spectrum, the anatomy/chromosomes of the individual are irrelevant. Do then the interests/behaviours/appearance become the defining criteria? But using these depends on gender stereotypes e.g. if I am interested in car racing, IT or engineering, I must be male. Conversely, if I like dresses, talking with friends for long periods or gardening, I must be female. And what if I liked ALL the above? Male? Female? Both? Neither?!
How then do we define gender?
Does one need to be a stereotype to be that gender? Does one need dysphoria to be a different gender?
What in the blazes is the point of a gender marker anyway?!

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